Open-mind To Minimalist Living

What is minimalist living?

Minimalist living seems to create two very different opinions. The main concept is to live. Not to be suppressed by possessions and be free of the clutter both physical and mental.

Some say that they like there stuff to much. Others love the concept of no clutter. I feel clutter causes stress. Clutter takes away the ability to sit and not be crowded in your surroundings. A clean environment offers you the chance to have a clean mind.

The minimalists

I watched a show on Netflix called The Minimalists. The show inspired me to want to try and live a clearer life, free from the unwanted clutter.  I came to realise the pressure of the want. The want for the next best thing. I realised how we are pressured by marketing and general conception that what we need to have lot of stuff. We are convinced that it is stuff that marks our success in life. The show showed me that in fact happiness in the true measure of success and it is something we can all work towards in our own way.

My minimalist journey

I started to clear out my home after my marriage broke down. This difficult task offered me the chance to create my own space. I could have my home how I wanted it. The feeling was energetic and I quickly felt free. Firstly I cleared out the kitchen and got rid of all the stuff I have not used or intended on using. I cleaned every cupboard and organised my belongings to make it easier to use. Sorted out the bathroom and I had clear and free space. I then simply moved from room to room doing the same thing and before I knew it my house was completely clutter free.

 

Once the house was done i moved onto my life

Once the house was completely minimal I realised that I had to much space. I have decided that I dont want to keep the house anymore! There are to many memories there to much mind clutter! I needed to have a sort out of my emotions as well as my stuff.

So I have decided on moving into a relatives house for a bit to get myself on my feet. Give my mind some free space to think.  I have thought about following my dream of buying a motor-home. Then I thought well if I had a motor-home maybe I could get rid of the car. And then the true reality of a life long dream hit me!!! Why don’t I just live in the motor-home!! It’s a perfect solution. Cheep, as minimalist as it gets and I can go wherever I want.

The motor-home

At first i was Fuelled by my new found ambition.  Full steam ahead with the plans. Of course! I have been faced with two very different opinions. Of course I have! On one side, I am completely crazy. On the other side my idea is amazing.

Let’s go back to crazy first!

I currently work full time and every penny I get is taken into the cost of the bills. No little luxuries! No free cash! Just bills and paying for food and fuel. So I spend my life earning just enough money to go to work and eat. I am trapped in a job I don’t really like! Feel captured like a caged animal in a world made up of two computer screens and a telephone headset.

I drive a car that basically works as a tool to get me back and forth work to pay for a house that is fundamentally half of my ex wife’s. I have all the normal debt and nothing to spare at the end. Let’s hope my boiler don’t break down.

So I ask you is it not crazy to live this life for the next 40 years? Running on the spot to simply pay bills? Never seeing anything more the two sets of four walls!

now let’s look at the amazing opportunity.

Living a life of little responsibility. Enjoying seeing some of the most beautiful parts of the world. Never having to worry about being home for work on Mondy. No dead lines! Not governed by targets! No real rules except your own. Taking time, having a clear mind. Living life your way at your pace and being free to roam and explore.

For me the life of a full timer is definitely for me. Yes I am worried about the life changing choices. Getting rid of my STUFF was in fact the easy bit. Essentially turning my back on normality and creating uniqueness is the dream.

I plan on writing a book. Get more creative with my poetry. Take up photography and simply being free.

So why?

With simplicity and minimalism your requirements are rapidly reduced. Your expectations are fewer and your decisions are less complex. You are free to think! I have now moved out of the house. De-cluttered my mind and my stuff. I now have what I need. Everything I own has a purpose. My mind feels free from the stress of perception and expectation. Will I travel full time? Will just travel part time? Who knows! What i do know is my life will be simpler and less congested leaving space to concentrate on me!

 

Disability- lifestyles and life changes. 

disability lifestyles and life changes.

There are several types of people suffering with disability, those born with a disability, those who suffer from an injury and those who suffer from an illness.

If you weren’t born with a disability as many aren’t, it can be a struggle learning to adapt and enjoy your new lifestyle. This will lead to times of frustration, sadness, and despair. It shouldn’t have to, you are the one in control and you do have the power to succeed. I get it! Yes! This is Easier said than done. Yes! We all struggle. Yes! It is perfectly natural however it’s important to find your new way of living. Your task is finding a way to make ‘you’ happy.

Coping with your emotions

It’s hard and even more so if an injury or illness is keeping you from doing the things you enjoy. You will start experiencing a profound impact on your emotional and mental health.

For many people there is the offer of counsellors to help them sort through their emotions. Some like myself this is not necessarily on offer so I turned to friends and mentor programs. Programs like what is offered by the BackUp Trust.

Truth is you just need to find people to talk through your feelings with. It helps if they have a grasped understanding of your situation. There are loads of foundations and organisations that can help in this area for example Limb Power help with individuals that have lost a limb or have limb impediments. I have recently been a guest at the Katie piper foundation. They support burn and scaring survivors. The foundation and the patrons are fantastic and supportive.

I was very lucky as I met people through sport and those people introduced me to other people. I joined my local baseball team. (Archers Wheelchair Basketball) This helped loads, my journey from there has been positive and now I am in a position where I can offer others a bit of support.

Through sport I found confidence and from confidence I found will power. Before I knew it I was back in the saddle, I was planning adventures and deciding what I wanted to do next.

limitations

Your limits can be a massive issue. Your body’s new limits is something you will need to explore and also experiment with. This is the area however that will make you angry and at times irritable. You can gain a lot of benefits from working with physical or occupational therapists to help you find new ways of doing things. Effectively using your body to its best potential will be how you overcome the limitations presented to you. For all of us the hardest thing to beat is our own frustration.

Be patient with yourself it will come in time. We all try we all fail but if you don’t try then you have failed before you begin.

Coping financially

Now this is the area of real pressure. It comes with its own issues and I have often stated that no one plans this life changing event. Often a recently new disability will keep you from working. This could possibly be long or short-term so you are effectively already starting on the back foot.

I know here in the U.K. You can seek benefit support and in other countries there are other such assistance. The application process can be lengthily and often complicated. You may even get rejected on the first attempt but the hard work is worth the effort. Remember two things:-

  1. You need this initial support and never be too proud to ask for help. One of the biggest mistakes that many people do in my opinion is to fund the new unexpected out goings on credit cards or loans. This is the voice of experience.
  2. Financial hardship is common, you are not the first. Sometimes the sudden lack of income can put massive pressure on an already pressured situation. You don’t have to face this alone and you can visit well run organisations such as Citizens advice or stepchange to seek financial guidance.
Finding new passions and hobbies

Hobbies will be very healthy, your life may have changed due to disability but your life style doesn’t need to. If you are unable to keep working in your current job try seeking a further education.

Sometimes hobbies have to change. I was a runner before my wheelchair but I found new activities such as wheelchair basketball, Handcycleling,  wheelchair rugby,  wheelchair squash and of course I became a blogger.

It is absolutely vital that you find new ways to enjoy life. There are plenty of hobbies and activities you can do. All you need to do is just be willing to explore your boundaries. Step outside the box.

It is hard to adapt but trust me you will find away. When I developed my disability so many people told me what I couldn’t do but all I could think about was “but why not?” So I decided to try to find a way to do these things for me that became my hobby! And I love it…

The journey from where I started to the place I am now has been long, painful and frustrating. I have had to overcome, push my limits and rediscover who I now am. People would say it’s not about the chair you are the same old you. No I am not I am a new me. I laid the able version of me to rest and embraced the version of me that has a disability and decided that if this was the cards I was dealt then I am playing them my way. Keep hope, keep faith and look to those around you for the support you need. You can do it and you will…

My life With CRPS (complex Regional Pain Syndrome}

What is CRPS? (complex Regional pain syndrome).

CRPS! Well it kind of is what it says on the tin really! A complex condition that results in the suffer experiencing unbearable pain. Caused by the neurological system and normally effecting one limb. It is rarely in two or more but definitely possible.

I have been living with this condition for just over 3 years. A condition that has affected my mobility in my lower limbs and has meant I have had no choice but to use a wheelchair.

At first I was full time in the wheelchair however recently I started to use crutches. Its great to be up on my feet more but I get tiered very quickly and the pain never goes away and I mean never.

Not only has the condition meant I have struggled to walk but I also get spasms. The Spasms are caused by a condition that can be related to CRPS, called Dystonia. These, sometimes very aggressive attacks, effect mostly the right hand side of my body and are somewhat unpleasant.

The medication Gabapentin helps to control these very uncomfortable and painful symptoms but unfortunately don’t stop it all together, however I feel they are reduced dramatically.

So my legs don’t work and I use a wheelchair!

Not so bad! I mean when people look at me thats generally what they see! a guy in a wheelchair. Well maybe this is a good time to mention I also suffer because of it all a significant reduction of control in my bladder. Between the CRPS and the cocktail of drugs I take I have Recently been diagnosed with Sensitive Gastroenteritis.

Now if you followed the link you will know that i am basically pron to bowel infections. during this time I cant sustain my levels of Phosphate. This is called hypophosphatemia.

So I am stuck in this fantastic circle.

CRPS has caused Dystonia. the issues with my lower mobility has resulted in Gastroenteritis. when i get flare up of that I then suffer with Hypophophatemia that causes high level stomach and muscle cramps. Cramps cause spasms and spasms are caused because of the dystonia.

Yep CRPS sucks but it could be a lot worst. what i have had to do is learn to adapt. and adapt i have!

CRPS for many “professionals” is considered as a cop out diagnosis. Not recognised as being a real disability, Well neither is ME and that affects 1000’s of people every day and is very real.

I also want to mention that it was not that long ago that if you had epilepsy you where executed for being possessed by witch craft. And dyslexia was not even known, you where just stupid. So I think it is fair to say that science and medical opinions change and doctors are not gods and not always right.

So what is my take on CRPS? Well for me it’s hard to explain because unless you are in the situation it’s not an easy thing to describe but I will try.

Basically

It’s all about signals and receptors in the body not communicating in the right way.  For example if a sensor on your car starts to malfunction it may send a signal to light up a warning light on your dashboard. It can even cause the car to lack power or stop altogether.

Now there is nothing mechanical wrong with your car. It’s a simple electrical fault that causes a whole load of problems. Anyone who knows cars and electrics will know this can be a nightmare to find. Well that is basically CRPS!

The sensors in the body that detect pain starts sending false signals and sends false messages to the brain. And as in your car can cause a world of problems for the person trying to live with the fault accept you can’t just replace them like you can on a car.

CRPS can be brought on by a number of things. An old injury or even an illness such as shingles. There is no cure and the use of medication  is designed to reduce the effects.

For me even though my condition has effected both my legs I am in a much better place than most. By using a chair I can live a fairly active life. I do sport, train, and I work full time. I’ve been very successful in all areas and have been very lucky.

I adapted

I had to make my house wheelchair friendly.  Purchased a new car that is automatic. Changed my job so I could work in an environment that can accommodate the wheelchair. these are just the big changes

Things have been tough. It has had a dramatic effect on personal relationships and friendships. At times I have felt very lonely. I have struggled with depression and I have struggled with emotions. Suffered with anxiety because of how these symptoms effect my everyday life. I just do my best to put all this aside and concentrate on the positives.

So ‘how’ do ‘I’ live with CRPS? Well I take each day as it comes and I think that is all any of us can do.